Tantra - and the ultimate sexual experience.

I have often felt the approach to a relationship between partners is often reduced to a very basic level. I think a full relationship requires Love – Tenderness – Respect – Dignity to be achieved normally between two people in a constant relationship. The Yoga of Sex with Love can achieve this. Sexual experience when limited to a basic mechanical action can never be truly fulfilling. Many individuals when making love; note the word love has again been introduced, often find they fantasize during the mechanical action to heighten the pleasure realised. Tantriks conscious of the psycho-sexual energy surrounding the sexual act, the act which has been recognised as the ultimate means of enjoyment, have wanted to make the enjoyment prolonged and further heightened. So they have stressed the need for Love – Tenderness – Respect – Dignity to be more important than the purely mechanical act which is dependent on just physical attributes.

So we should treasure all aspects of love making, not just the mechanical, but the scent, taste, sound, surroundings and the colour. This way you can attain true fulfilment with your partner. Eventually you will find the foreplay dominating your union. Preparation of your surroundings becomes very important. The use of scents, lighting, possibly with candles, soothing music, and a comfortable situation. You become conscious of the cosmic forces that surround you. Slowly, over time, the need for actual mechanical union becomes secondary; the pleasure of just lying close to one another becomes paramount. Now you are entering the many higher aspects of love making; you are realising that much is dependent on thought, desire, companionship, intimacy. Certainly physical copulation is not to be excluded, but we are considering coition without contact, something that the West finds hard to accept as they still regard sexual intercourse as the act of copulation.

So need we become a member of the Tantra thinking sect? No, there are many aspects and doctrines which might not be welcome. This short thesis is only to suggest that the sexual act should be taken to its highest level where LOVE – TENDERNESS – RESPECT – DIGNITY is important, and lust takes a back seat. Sex without physical contact!

I hope that this short thesis has been received with regard.